Is it still possible to pursue someone you like when you become excellent?

Many friends have had this question: can we wait until we become excellent before pursuing someone we like?

Peach wants to say that you don’t need to be excellent to start doing something, but you need to start to become even better.

Remembering a line from “Food, Drink, Men and Women”: “Life is not like cooking, you can’t wait until everything is ready before cooking. The future is unpredictable, and plans can never keep up with changes. By the time you think you are fully prepared, perhaps everything is already too late.

In this world, there are always people who are not only better than you, but also work harder than you.

For example, in 1911, he entered the palace and became a glorious general manager.

For example, on Sunday night, I ranked first in my social media circle by jumping on WeChat.

For example, joining the Fruit Party in 1949.

Chasing girls is never about fighting monsters or completing tasks. Once I reach a certain level, I can unlock new levels.

In elementary school, everyone worshipped boys who were good at fighting. You envied them and practiced 38 martial arts skills and 62 types of punches and kicks. When you entered middle school, everyone called you a little rascal.

In middle school, girls generally prefer boys with good academic performance. Do you think that studying hard can always win the heart of a goddess. When you go to college, they call you a bookworm.

College life is rich and colorful, and versatile male students can receive more attention. You play and sing, everyone needs to learn a little. After work, they say you’re not doing your job properly.

Open the love handbook, which chapter and section have told you, what kind of boy is an excellent boy? Which chapter or section has told you what kind of boy girls must like?

You may know sixteen languages and play saxophone on the moon, but I’m sorry, I just don’t like you. How do you strive to become excellent? To learn the languages of thirty-two countries?

When I was a child in art class, the teacher assigned me an assignment.

Before we start writing, we unconsciously tell ourselves, “Today I want to paint a perfect picture

As I draw, I realize that I am far from my goal. After making changes and revisions, I often end up with unsatisfactory drawings when I hand them over to the teacher.

When dating girls, it’s the same. We always say to ourselves, “Today, I must show her my best self

In high school, I liked a girl from the next class. We made plans to go to the Book City together to buy books. This was our first date. As we passed by the milk tea shop, I asked her if she wanted to drink, and I would treat her to a drink. When we walked, I consciously let her walk on the inner side of the road

I tried my best to show my most considerate and best side towards girls. And in the end, she said to me, ‘Why do I feel weird coming out with you today? It’s really twisted.’

When we try our best to showcase our perfect selves, we often forget one thing: in fact, you are not as perfect as you appear.

We long to showcase our perfect selves, but there is no such thing as a perfect person in this world, and our daily lives are not as perfect. As we demand more and more of ourselves to strive for perfection, we become farther and farther away from our true selves.

And girls actually understand in their hearts that you are not that good. Girls are more willing to fall in love with a real and imperfect boy, and do not want to like a boy who appears perfect but is fake. The most powerful and beautiful thing in this world is truth, not perfection.

We are afraid of making mistakes because we want to perform perfectly.

When I go on a date, I want to present a perfect image, and this idea makes me afraid of making mistakes. One day when it was raining, I was holding an umbrella for a girl. Actually, I wasn’t very good at holding an umbrella, but I didn’t dare to tell her, so I felt awkward. In the end, I didn’t hold the umbrella properly, and I kept blaming myself in my heart, which led to a failed date that day.

Actually, looking back now, if I were to encounter such a situation again, I would confidently say to the girl, ‘I’m not very good at holding umbrellas for girls, why don’t you teach me?’ I think the effect would be much better.

When we go on a date, we always make some mistakes. Some people constantly blame themselves and mess up the date because of these mistakes, while smart guys have a indifferent attitude towards mistakes.

What girls care more about is not whether they make mistakes or not, but how their attitude is after making a mistake. If they care too much about this mistake, the impact it brings will gradually become greater, affecting their dating mood. If you don’t care about this mistake, it’s really nothing.

Daring to accept mistakes and admit one’s imperfections is a powerful inner trait that often attracts girls more.

When we like a girl, we often unconsciously believe that she is the best and perfect.

Actually, it’s not. Your goddess, maybe her home is also very messy and her life is messy, it’s just that you don’t know.

Some of my female friends have told me that sometimes rejecting a guy is actually because he thinks too well of me, which puts a lot of pressure on me. I’m not actually what he thinks, and what he likes is actually his imagined me, not the real me.

Of course, girls wouldn’t say that to you. Often, what they tell you is polite words like ‘we’re not suitable’.

We think of each other as perfect, which not only causes trouble for ourselves, but also makes us feel that we are not worthy of her and need to do more. At the same time, it also puts pressure on girls, making them afraid to show their true selves in front of you.

One time when I was on a date with a girl, I had a drink of cola and she involuntarily burped after finishing it. Then her face turned red and she felt very embarrassed. At this moment, I playfully said to her, “You know, you’re really cute when you burp.” She smiled and happily said, “Damn it

At this moment, I think we have brought each other closer, she has shown her true side, and I have also accepted her authenticity.

If you ask me, what do I like about you? Of course I will tell you that I like everything about you.

Because liking someone solely based on their strengths is selfish, true liking is appreciating their strengths while being tolerant and accepting of their weaknesses. I like the real you.

Of course, no girl would like a useless boy.

When chatting with a friend from Peking University, he told me that your future achievements largely depend on what kind of girlfriend you meet.

When your girlfriend is excellent, you will involuntarily accelerate your pace to keep up with her.

Love is a process of mutual promotion and progress. If two people are in sync, their relationship will be stable and their future will be promising.

After experiencing the passage of time, seemingly waiting in place, no one really stands still.

So when encountering a girl, finding the right direction and seizing the opportunity are the most important.

Becoming excellent is just something you have to do throughout your life.