How to relieve embarrassment when meeting for the first time in online dating
Any awkward problem with a date can essentially be solved with a core idea – if you’re afraid of a cold start, you keep it warm.
In fact, if we think back carefully, we will find that we have met countless times so far, and each time there is a risk of embarrassment and silence. However, there will always be people who can successfully resolve these issues, which makes you feel particularly natural – their methods are nothing more than two:
- Inappropriate matter
- Take the initiative to find a conversation
what do you mean? Let’s not take it seriously first – embarrassment can be contagious and compounded. If you feel embarrassed, the other person will also feel embarrassed. Once you find each other embarrassed, it will become even more awkward. So, the first thing to break the awkwardness is to show a relaxed attitude and lead the other person to gradually relax their emotions.
The most effective way to help both of you relax is actually quite simple – keep talking.
Keep talking, keep talking, keep talking! Emphasize important things three times!
When a person is speaking, their attention must be very focused – they need to both obtain your information and provide timely feedback on it, so that their awkward emotions can gradually be dispersed.
In addition, through continuous communication between both parties, gradually you will gain enough information about each other – although you should have known enough about each other before in online dating, at that time it was to cultivate a sense of security, and what was needed at that time was to establish a sense of familiarity offline.
And to prevent your brain from getting stuck, Peach tells you an almost brainless ice breaking model:
Ask simple questions+delve into your own information
For example, “Is it crowded all the way here?” (Don’t forget to ask me if you can get stuck) – When the other party replies to your question, no matter what they say, they directly enter their own message – “You know, Line 13 was pretty good today. When it’s rush hour after work, my goodness, can you believe it? I was born on the platform that day and waited for more than 20 minutes before getting up. It was terrifying
For example, “You haven’t had time to eat yet” (can’t even remember the greeting “Have you eaten yet???”) – When the other person replies to your question, regardless of what they say, they directly enter their own message – “There are quite a few delicious foods here. I remember you said you love XXX very much. I even went to investigate that day, and the environment was particularly good. When I eat, it actually depends more on the environment, especially when eating with people. You said that no matter how delicious the food is, if there are noisy people around, you still feel annoyed and can’t eat it, right? ”
You see, talking about your own affairs is much better than forcefully finding topics, right.
This is the basic operation. Next, we will focus on the level operation – capturing keywords for chatting.
Capture even the shortest words in the other person’s conversation, constantly switch and expand topics, and give the other person enough topics to answer in the reply——
A: You haven’t had a chance to eat yet, have you
B: Well, there isn’t
A: There are quite a few delicious foods here. I remember you mentioned that you love XXX very much. I even went to investigate it that day, and the environment was particularly good. When I eat, I actually pay more attention to the environment, especially when eating with people. No matter how delicious the food is, if there are noisy people around, you still feel annoyed and can’t eat it, right? ”(Other person’s hobbies+own ideas)
B: Did you really go? It’s quite thoughtful. ”(Keywords: intentional)
A: Yeah, you definitely need to get to know the things you like, like pet shops, internet famous restaurants, and even claw machines. I’ve investigated them all, and I think I might be able to catch one now I tried it that day and it took a lot of effort to come up with a little pig named Peppa Pig. ”(Key words: pet shop, online celebrity restaurant, doll grabbing machine, experience of doll grabbing, Piggy Paiqi doll)
If she is interested in the first three, she will continue to ask, the second to last one is convenient for others to talk to you about catching dolls, and the last one is usually taken out of your phone to show her photos if she continues. Then you start talking about how timid you were when you were a child and how hard it was for your parents to make you compromise and share a bed with the dolls You see, when it comes to childhood experiences, having them is another key word
The awkward atmosphere at first meeting is often caused by no one speaking or being cold. Being a bit talkative at this time can actually help you break the ice and lead the other person to speak
We have completed the intermediate tutorial, now let’s move on to the advanced tutorial
Important reminder: If your rank is not high enough and your mind is not flexible enough, please follow the beginner and intermediate levels honestly, and do not imitate a dog in high-level tutorials.
Let’s re-examine the topic: Long distance relationship+online relationship – indicating that we have flirted before, and the other party has feelings and expectations for you. In fact, the other party is also very excited to meet you psychologically.
I once witnessed a person show off their skills in front of me, making girls tremble with excitement from start to finish——
As soon as he saw the girl, he immediately stood at attention with a “slap” and said, “I solemnly welcome my wife to open the box and inspect the goods. Please evaluate whether I have gone too far with my photo. ”
The girl couldn’t help but laugh and said, ‘No, no, it’s quite handsome, even more handsome than in the photo.’.
Then he immediately smiled mischievously and said, “It’s good to maintain this attitude. Anyway, you can’t return the goods, right
The girl laughed even harder and started teasing him, “But I can go back and blacklist you
As a result, he just put on a bad smile and grabbed the girl’s hand, saying, “So we have to take advantage of everything we can before our relationship is still effective, right
The girl blushed and muttered to herself that there was someone else.
He immediately turned his head and scolded me, who was the driver, saying, “Children, what are you looking at? Have you ever seen showing affection? Go go, it’s not suitable for children
Then he continued to turn his head and said, “Madam, you’re here on a grand trip. It’s not a long way to welcome you. I’ll prepare a small amount of wine for you. May I ask if you can appreciate it? Madam, I advise you to say yes, after all, we have two gentlemen here
The nervousness and embarrassment of the girl getting off the plane were all worn away by his mouth. Even if there was a little unfamiliarity, he would hug her with a wicked smile and flirt with her like whispering——
Wife, why don’t I remember you being so ladylike online? “The girl was shy and angry, and the two of them were flirting all the way, leaving me, a poor driver, driving with black lines all over my face.
However, please note that the prerequisite for the establishment of advanced level gameplay is:
① Long distance dating and online dating are already a fait accompli, and both parties have long been addicted to online dating
② The online persona of a boy is that of a mischievous and mischievous young man, so his behavior after meeting is not at all out of place
But if it’s just your first date as a male or female, or if you’re usually a quiet and introverted guy, it’s best to stick to the beginner and intermediate ice breaking methods, otherwise that’s the impression you leave on the other person——
Additionally, Peach would like to add a few points here. Before starting an online relationship, be sure to make some preparations!!
1、 Prepare before meeting
If you want to avoid awkwardness when meeting online dating for the first time, you must do some preparation work before the meeting. For example, before meeting, you need to have some understanding of a girl’s life, so that you won’t feel like you’re meeting a stranger. At the same time, before meeting, it is important to have more voice and video conversations with your online romantic partner, as well as a certain understanding of their life. Then, both parties should be able to accept each other’s true appearance (many online relationships cannot accept photo scams, as there is a huge gap between reality and the internet). This will reduce the awkwardness of your meeting and make chatting more natural.
2、 Online dating and location selection
In fact, the awkwardness of online dating is inevitable. To alleviate the awkwardness, it is best to find a suitable place for online dating, such as an amusement park or zoo, which can attract people’s attention and make it easier for the two to meet.
In addition, you can also choose to dine at the place where you eat, and try to chat more about the topic of eating, food, the other person’s dietary preferences, and your own food experience. If there is nothing to say, everyone can eat seriously, and there will be nothing embarrassing to do.
3、 Be open-minded in action
The girl who falls in love with Benxian online must have come with great courage. It’s already good that she can agree to Benxian. At this time, when meeting Benxian online for the first time, the boy must be open-minded and give the girl a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere. You can lead girls to eliminate the unfamiliarity of meeting for the first time, find more common topics, or do things that cannot be done through screens but can be done now. Then as we chat, we can return to the state of chatting on the internet and do things together that we couldn’t do during online dating. Gradually, we can get to know each other and not feel awkward anymore.
Try to find more topics, joke around, relieve awkwardness, arrange a fun place to meet, and focus entirely on playing, so there is no awkwardness to speak of
