The secret to chasing girls is not to chase girls like this with me!!
Hello everyone, I am Peach.
Peach, let me briefly say four no’s first!! Don’t chase after girls!
1. Do not reveal a sense of need! Don’t expose your sense of need! Don’t expose your sense of need!
I put what I think is the most important in the first item, repeating the summer three times, hoping that everyone can realize its importance!
Why can’t we expose our sense of need?
Think about it, if you express too strong a sense of need while pursuing a girl. So what would a girl think in her heart?
This guy has been taken over by me anyway, and I have a lot of initiative. If I want to be with him, I will be with him. If I don’t want to be with him, I won’t be with her.
Once a girl develops this mentality, your value in her eyes rapidly decreases. What cannot be obtained is the best, this is a universal human psychology.
You must make her guess: ‘Does this brat like me?’; ‘Does he really have any thoughts of being with me?’
This is similar to the fact that if you scratch yourself, it won’t itch, but if others scratch it, it will itch uncontrollably.
You can’t have a sense of control when you go to her. You have to make her feel that you are sometimes close to her, and sometimes pushing her away, so she will be anxious. This uncertainty will cause her great emotional fluctuations, and this emotional fluctuation will make her feel like she has fallen in love with you.
2. Refuse to kneel and lick
What is your first reaction when you think about being sold to a salesperson with a very obsequious demeanor and tone?
The first reaction is resistance. You will instinctively think, ‘Does he want any benefit from me?’ ‘Is his product not as good as he says, that’s why he wants to please me so lowly?’“
On the contrary, when the salesperson communicates with you in a confident and equal tone, you may think that this product should be good, and it seems that he cannot benefit much from me. You actually want to buy his product more.
Chasing girls is the same. Pursuing girls is the process of promoting yourself. Many boys, when chasing girls, start kneeling and licking without any bottom line because they have a strong sense of need and want to be with this girl too much.
You look really good, why are you so white? Your legs are so thin“
I bought you breakfast downstairs“
I’ve been eating instant noodles for a month and bought you a bag“
If the girl still says’ You’re good, but we’re not suitable ‘. You may feel frustrated and wonder, ‘Why is she still not like me even though I’m so good to her?’
The answer may be that you are too good to her, which is why she thinks your kindness is cheap.
When you “kneel and lick” her, she will feel that you are not very good, not liked by many girls, that’s why you are so good to her. When you have no value in her eyes, you are like losing your attraction to her.
3. Don’t treat her as a ‘true goddess’
Many boys comfort others by telling them not to “give up a tree, and you will gain the whole forest.” But when it comes to themselves, they can’t jump out no matter what.
If you like a girl again and treat her as your “true love”, you think that you won’t marry her in this life, and you feel that you can’t live without her.
So you’re probably not able to catch up with this girl.
The reason why many boys can’t catch up with girls who enjoy themselves is here: you value the other person too much!
So all your conversations, actions, and performances present a state: I really like you, I have to do it with you. This creates a feeling for girls: you are being led by her nose, the dominance of this relationship is on her phone, and you are being determined by her.
The feeling conveyed is that you lack the ability to lead her, and this ability is precisely an important attraction switch that opens up a girl’s heart or not.
The reason for this phenomenon is often because you only chat with her alone, so in fact, you have no other choice. If you don’t seize this opportunity, you won’t have a chance to date.
People are very good at reverse rationalization of their ideas, so in fact, it’s because of your sense of urgency that you think she is important, but you don’t want to believe that you don’t have the ability to choose more. You prefer to tell yourself that she is the right person for you in your life, and you love her very much.
If you chat with 10 girls at the same time, you have the space to choose. Let’s take a look again and see what kind of “destined girl” there is. Whoever is with you in the end is your “destined girl”.
4. Do not confess your feelings
A real hand, even before going to bed, will not actively confess to a girl.
Because they know a truth: if a girl likes you, you don’t need to confess your feelings; If a girl doesn’t like you, it’s pointless to confess your feelings.
Why don’t many people understand such a simple truth? Some people deliberately placed heart-shaped candles downstairs to confess their love, hoping to move girls and achieve their goals in this way. However, the result was that it made girls feel embarrassed and disgusted, and they lost face.
Table platinum has only one function: to give girls a chance to reject themselves. If you never confess your love to a girl, your surname will never refuse you.
Still the useful old saying: Confession is never the horn of charge, but the triumphant song of ultimate victory.
After Peach finished speaking, don’t say again what to do. Seeking a girl is a complex process, and many people will encounter failures and setbacks in the pursuit of a girl. However, these failed experiences can actually become valuable lessons that help you better understand the principles of pursuing love.
Dare to advance and retreat
Do you dare to have physical contact with a girl before establishing a relationship with her?
Those who don’t answer are struggling hard on the path of pursuing girls, seeking but not being able to; Answer: Some brothers have already hugged their beloved girls and spent their happy days together.
Some boys may think that the girl I like is very innocent. What if I touch her and make her angry?
This is a typical ‘silk mentality’, essentially believing that one does not deserve this girl and that she will feel intimate with them.
Think about it, if you were Peng Yuyan, if you held a girl’s hand, leaned in close, whispered softly in her ear, or just hit the wall, would the girl hate you?
Girls will only think that you are domineering and gentle, with explosive masculinity. Apart from feeling deeply attracted to you, they will not have any feelings of disgust.
There is a saying that goes: Women are like eggs, they may appear white on the surface, but inside they are all yellow; Men are like mangoes, they look yellow on the surface, but inside they are even more yellow.
Women are not as elegant or holy as they seem. They walk on the road as if they are all “sexually indifferent”, but in fact, they all yearn to have some intimate contact with the opposite sex they like.
When faced with someone they don’t like making physical contact with, they may indeed feel repelled, but if it’s someone they have a good impression of, they won’t mind and even hope that you will initiate physical contact with them.
Otherwise, she may still feel that you are not interested in her, thus closing the “window period” for you, causing the two to become friends or “buddies”, but they will never become a couple.
So when crossing the road, be brave and take the initiative to hold their hands. This kind of inadvertent heartwarming gesture is equivalent to her accepting of your intimate relationship, which will create a strong emotional attachment for you in her mind.
Love is a practice of mutual growth
Objectively speaking, a good love is a lifelong lesson for two people, not a momentary sweetness and happiness.
In fact, managing love is a process of mutual learning and growth. In this process, we constantly appreciate the knowledge of both sexes and explore each other’s needs. A flowing and growing love is stable and enduring.
Why do we inevitably end up breaking up in love after spending a long time together?
It’s because the other person is constantly growing in love, and their thoughts and perspectives are becoming deeper and more rational, while you are still the same, nothing has changed. When a person’s sense of disappointment accumulates to a certain extent, they naturally begin to try to let go.
So in love and even marriage, you need to learn to constantly perceive and explore each other’s emotional needs. Only in this process of mutual compensation and tolerance can your love flow smoothly.
Therefore, do not resist growth or be lazy to change. Love is not your ultimate destination, but a springboard for you to constantly achieve a better version of yourself.
Sincerity is more important than sweet words
Many people constantly use sweet words when pursuing girls, hoping to deceive them through false language. However, these sweet words will only temporarily confuse the other person and cannot sustain the relationship for a long time. When pursuing a girl, sincerity and genuine emotions are the most important, only through sincere expression and action can you touch the other person’s heart.
Respect the choices and wishes of girls
Everyone has their own choice and will, pursuing a girl does not mean you can force her to accept your pursuit. When a girl explicitly rejects you, respect her choice and do not forcefully pursue or engage in inappropriate behavior. Understanding and accepting rejection from others is a part of growth and a necessary path to becoming a better person.
Establishing true friendship is more important than pursuing temporary romance
Many people tend to overlook building genuine friendships when pursuing girls. They only focus on pursuing romance and romantic relationships, while neglecting genuine communication and understanding with each other. However, true friendship is the foundation for building long-lasting relationships, and only by establishing true friendship can one achieve greater success on the path of pursuing love.
The principles that can only be understood after the failure of pursuing a girl include sincerity being more important than sweet words, respecting the girl’s choices and wishes, establishing true friendships being more important than pursuing temporary romance, paying attention to the other person’s needs and feelings, being good at self reflection and improvement, and persistence and patience being the key to success. These truths can only be truly understood through failures and setbacks, and they are not only applicable to pursuing girls, but also to many other interpersonal relationships and various aspects of life.
