Can I make girls like me by relying on ‘developing feelings over time’?

The desire to develop a romantic relationship over time requires a prerequisite, which is that both individuals have feelings for each other.

If there is no feeling of love between two people, even if they have feelings, it is not love.
It’s like when you go to work every day and meet the same cleaning lady who greets you politely and friendly every day. Over time, you will definitely feel that the lady is very friendly and has developed some emotions, but these emotions are often sympathy and a feeling that she is not easy. In the future, even if some parts of her are not cleaned very thoroughly, you will be more tolerant.

For example, if you have a pet, from the initial disdain, feeling troubled, having to be both a caretaker and a pooper, to eventually becoming a special relationship between the owner and the pet, reluctant to part ways.

Of course, there are also many emotions that have developed over time, such as family, colleagues, comrades, old friends, and so on.

But love, unlike other emotions, is a special kind of intimate relationship that can make you feel uneasy inside.
Although you have deep feelings for your friends, classmates, or pets, you won’t have that kind of tension, anxiety, heart palpitations, or even restless feelings, but these kinds of love will exist.

Do you feel these feelings when you think carefully about falling in love or even deeply in love with someone?

So, if you can’t make a woman experience these complex emotional fluctuations, the other person will gradually get used to getting along with you in an ordinary way, and eventually you become her friend, brother, and best friend. If she’s a bit bad, she will even treat you like a licking dog, spare tire, or a human ATM.

So, you need to consider the uniqueness of love, and you need to embellish your relationship by providing emotional value.
I remember when I first started learning about love, there was a method of picking up girls online called the Pavlov method.

You keep a carefully prepared breakfast in the drawer for your desired female colleague/classmate every day, and remain silent, no matter how she asks, without saying anything. You persist in this for a month.

When a girl becomes accustomed to your daily behavior of delivering breakfast, and you suddenly stop delivering food, she will have deep doubts in her heart, strong curiosity and loss towards you, and at the same time, she will be full of interest and questions to ask you. At this time, she will once again cheer up and take her down.

This method is actually very easy to operate, but the tricks are too obvious and many people know it. However, the idea behind it can be borrowed, which is that you can make the girl get used to your goodness, but occasionally pull away and let her feel some feelings of loss and anxiety, and even make her angry with you. Only then can the girl feel full of emotional value and start to have psychological fluctuations in the process of being with you.

Here, Taozi teaches you a few tricks,
① Japanese writer Osamu Dazai once said, “No matter who you are too passionate about, the probability of not being cherished increases. If there is no excessive joy, there will be no extreme sadness

Emotionally, women tend to be slower and more cautious in dealing with relationships compared to men.

There is a saying that goes, “Men pursue women over mountains, while women pursue men over veils.” Although men are visual animals, there are many girls who are not particularly outstanding in appearance, but they are not lacking in opposite sex relationships around them.

It can be seen that women who truly “flirt with men” often rely not on their appearance, but on their high emotional intelligence. Men are no exception.

As Haruki Murakami once said, for those in love, the other person’s heart is the best house.

Pursuing a woman solely based on time is not effective. It also requires mastering some skills to gain the other person’s sincere recognition. Only by winning a woman’s heart can one truly obtain a woman.

② Get used to your presence and form dependence
People who love each other will carry beautiful expectations, hoping that love can last long. Many people, while in love, make lifelong promises to their significant other.

But what is frustrating is that whether you are willing to accept it or not, you should understand before loving someone that love is difficult to preserve and is the norm.

So in the relationship between two people, love is the initial bud, and to bind them together for a long time, it relies on a habit, a dependence.

What we all know is that once a person develops a certain habit, it is difficult to change it again. To break out of their comfort zone, everyone needs to have a great deal of courage and a certain amount of steadfast belief.

In contact with women, men provide support when it is important and integrate into their lives. This subtle change will make women’s dependence on you and their emotions towards you multiply.

The word ‘understand’ runs through our interactions, putting ourselves in others’ shoes

Women are emotional, and once they feel that you are the right person, they will easily open up to you. It’s better to understand someone than to love someone.

In our daily lives, everyone desires understanding, and in the process of communicating with women, we should pay attention to using female thinking. Gradually, you will realize that there is a huge difference in emotional accumulation between “understanding” and “not understanding”.

Cultivating common interests and hobbies is a good way to increase topics and greatly bridge the psychological distance between two people.

Love, marriage, and shared values can reduce emotional friction and comprehensively enhance her favorability towards you.

Many times, don’t get bogged down in trivial matters. If we approach the same problem from a different perspective, the conclusions we draw may vary greatly.

When you love someone, your heart naturally becomes soft, and love requires a response. It can be said that if you understand me, there’s no need to say too much; If you don’t understand, why say so much.

Give each other a sense of security and home

Women are naturally sensitive and know how to create a sense of security for them, which can give them a higher advantage in sexual relationships.

In any relationship, if two people only talk about heavy topics and cannot create an atmosphere for each other, it will make them feel exhausted.

Of course, we do not deny that such a relationship may be more reliable, but at the same time, it cannot be denied that this relationship is definitely oppressive and uninteresting.

And to establish good communication with women over time and develop feelings over time. Focus on discussing light topics and also talk about your future plans.

The key is that this future plan can arouse the other party’s interest, and she should be included in the plan and occupy a major position.

In “I Only Like You,” Yan Mo plans Qiao Yi in his own future, and there is a very emotional sentence: “As long as I think of spending the rest of my life with you, I am full of expectations for the rest of my life

In fact, whether men or women, we pursue a sense of security and belonging throughout our lives, which is innate.

③ To truly become a winner in love, one must first see love clearly in order to walk the path ahead.
I completely agree with a quote from writer Su Qin: “The best way to love someone is to manage yourself well and give them a high-quality partner. It’s not about being good to someone and they will love you desperately.

Some emotional techniques are not just tricks, they just help two people better perceive each other, find the point that each other cares about, and manage this relationship with care.

Everyone is lonely, as described by Hayao Miyazaki: our loneliness is like a floating city in the sky, like a secret that cannot be told.

So, in the world of emotions, we long for someone to know and rely on us, resist fate together, and perceive the beauty of life together.

So, when we understand the truth of emotions better, the relationship between lovers becomes smoother and life becomes more hopeful.

Not only can you make her happy, but you can also make her feel lost and anxious about you, so that girls will remember you in their hearts, always think of you, and begin to occupy her mind. Gradually, you can make her infatuated with you.

In short, emotions can be cultivated, but feelings cannot. If you want a girl to have feelings for you, you cannot rely on time. If a girl’s relationship with you is just an unchanging one without any psychological fluctuations or emotional value, she may have a deep affection for you, but not love. She will say to you, ‘You are really good, but I have no feelings for you.’.