Just added the contact information of the girl, how to start the chat
So how do I start chatting when I just added a girl’s WeChat? How should the first sentence start?
As I just said, we need to have different opening styles for different situations
1、 Assuming you met through a friend’s introduction or a blind date
Men and women who meet in this way are actually “slightly familiar strangers” in terms of relationship positioning, that is, they have some basic information about each other to some extent, but not very familiar.
In fact, for men and women who meet in this way, the emotions conveyed by both parties are more of “sincerity”, which means they want to find a suitable partner seriously; There is another deeper issue, which is to understand that the reason why you introduce yourself through friends indicates that girls may have faced many “boring” straight men before and have been unable to find suitable ones; So, in fact, she also hopes to meet a man who can chat “interestingly” in her heart.
After understanding this, we successfully deduced the idea of our opening style, which is: “Sincere” topics to initiate interaction+”interesting” conversations to stir up the atmosphere!
Chatting well, getting married early
Firstly, let’s take a look at the error demonstration of the first chat after adding Haoyou
1. Hello, beautiful lady.
Hello “is no problem, the problem lies with” beauty “. No one has ever seen beauty or ugliness in person. If you call someone beauty or ugliness that way without knowing it, it’s either insincere, superficial, or frivolous. Not every girl likes to be called a beauty.
2. Beauty, are you there
‘Beauty’ and ‘Are you there?’ are collectively referred to as’ double killings’. If nothing unexpected happens, both sides should be here for the next few decades. Asking this question is not a waste of time, but rather a waste of opportunity. If the other party has just approved your friend request, why bother asking this question? If someone has been requesting through your friend for a long time before you start chatting, then it may be too late. It’s not important whether you’re here or not at this moment, what’s important is how to easily start the first chat.
3. Beauty, are you there? What are you doing?
This sentence is like a triple kill! In a sweet relationship, ‘What are you doing?’=’I miss you.’ But two strangers, who are not police officers interrogating criminals, would feel uncomfortable asking like this. Even if the other party politely answers what they are doing, the topic is difficult to continue. (Many people’s obsession with the mystery of “beauty” is really incomprehensible.)
Are you the xx introduced by xxx? ”
Adding WeChat to confirm the other person’s identity is correct, but saying the first sentence like this will make the other person feel arrogant and conceited, and will always make them feel uncomfortable, instantly losing the desire to continue chatting.
Through blind dates or introductions from friends, just add a girl friend, start a conversation, and use the correct opening method
for instance:
After adding that, we can start the conversation by saying: Nice to meet you, how do you address yourself?
This sentence represents our sincerity.
Then, based on our friend circle construction, it has a certain attraction, coupled with a sincere tone. Most girls will tell you their name and are willing to get to know each other!
So when the girl replies to us, we follow a sincere train of thought and then tell her our name, doing an “information exchange” for the beginning of the interaction, so that each person has a sense of familiarity to fill in.
At this point, there is a key point
At this point, it’s not enough for us to just reply with our own names, because as we just mentioned, our thinking should also be “interesting” to chat and stir up the atmosphere!
So, after replying with our names, we need to add “You can also call me little brother~”. Use this sentence to adjust the atmosphere of the conversation and make it interesting.
And it’s also a test to see how interested girls are in us!
If a girl replies “Haha, hello little brother”, it means she has a good interest in you. Next, as long as you maintain a good pace of conversation and control your own sense of needs, you can continue chatting well; Of course, it is also possible that the girl may not call out. Not calling out does not mean that the girl is disgusted, but only indicates that the girl’s interest was not high enough at that time. Therefore, the focus of the next rhythm can be on showcasing and attracting the conversation.
Of course, there are also many opening remarks for chatting, to share with everyone:
1. Hi/Hello/Hello
Before further understanding, the more ordinary, the more secure it is. The first time two strangers greeted each other, there was no risk of being blacklisted without taking risks or being radical.
2. I am xxx, as mentioned by xxx
Introducing oneself first is a more polite approach. Although others introduce you for the purpose of a blind date, when introducing oneself, it is easier to weaken the words such as’ introduced ‘and simply say’ mentioned ‘lightly, which can make the other party lower their defense and initiate a pleasant conversation in a relaxed state.
3. I’m glad you approved my friend request, thank you.
Appropriately and appropriately expressing one’s joy of knowing the other person can make them feel happy as well. With a happy mood, it makes them even more eager to chat.
4. We shouldn’t have too much pressure, just treat it as meeting a new friend.
Some blind date partners who can obtain contact information are willing, some are half hearted, and even some are unaware. But most young people do not reject making new friends. With this, everyone is willing to try to chat. As long as they are willing to chat, it represents a chance.
5. Start with the other person’s interests and hobbies
I heard from xxx that you like traveling. Is there anything worth recommending? ”
I heard from xx that you like reading books. Do you have any recommendations? ”
Please be sure to rely on objective facts when hearing that you like xx,
Don’t guess or speak recklessly. If the other party replies with “I don’t like traveling,” it will be embarrassing to the Pacific.
Most people are good at talking about their hobbies. When they ask for a small help, they usually won’t refuse, but will sincerely recommend it to you. Talking about things they like can also lay the foundation for future meetings and dates.
Combining the above 5 points and adding some polished words that match your speaking style, it will not appear stiff, nor will it make the other person feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. A good beginning can bring us closer to a better future, and I wish everyone a smooth search for their significant other.
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2： Assuming you met through social media apps or by chatting up
The men and women who meet in this way are actually in a “stranger” relationship in terms of relationship positioning, with little knowledge of each other’s information and almost no interest.
Secondly, men and women who meet in this way have a “quick screening” attribute, which means they can chat when they see each other’s eyes, and become very aloof when they don’t.
After understanding this, our approach to the opening conversation is that “interesting and attractive” is the primary task, not for any other reason, just to make the girl look at us right in the first place and generate a desire to continue the conversation.
for instance:
For example, if a girl’s avatar is a pet, we can start a conversation and say: The cat in your WeChat avatar is so cute. I used to have one, but what’s wrong now ..
Using strategies such as storytelling, sharing, praising, and providing value to create a favorable impression on girls, making them feel that you have something in common, or subconsciously making them feel that you have something to talk about, that you are a “valuable” man. Moreover, each of our avatars must be something that interests us, so it’s definitely not wrong to talk about this. Next, use a common topic to resonate with the girls, such as a commonly used word called “shovel shit official”, to bring them closer together and gradually extend the topic, then continue the conversation!
So, you may ask, I met the girl through social media, but there doesn’t seem to be much to chat about with her profile picture or anything like that. My social circle is also blocked from me, and I don’t keep any pets. So how can I start chatting?
At this point, you can return to idea 1 and use “sincere” topics to initiate interaction and “interesting” conversations to stir up the atmosphere. Using the same opening line, exchanging information while making jokes, and testing a girl’s interest is actually a versatile move. However, girls may not be willing to tell you their name, so there is no need to spend too much time chatting because they are not interested in you at all, and chatting like this will not yield any results.
Why do some girls tell you their name, while others don’t? Apart from the reserved demeanor of girls, it’s actually because their own attractiveness is not enough, so girls are not interested in telling you. Another reason is that you are not the type she likes. Some girls just want to find an uncle and don’t like fresh meat, while others only like fresh meat and don’t like uncles.
So, there is a related point here, which is that your own attractiveness and the quality of a girl’s interest in chatting are actually closely related!
At the beginning, the source of self attraction is based on your social circle display. If your self attraction is not enough and your social circle construction is not rich enough, girls will basically not have any special reactions to your opening remarks. Maybe you said a very good opening remark, but the girls only replied with a “hmm”, making you feel hopeless.
So, improving one’s own attractiveness is very important. As for what kind of social circle is attractive and what makes girls interested in chatting, I won’t go into detail here. Many previous articles, including our courses, have provided more detailed teaching on this issue. If you want to learn and understand, you can go back and take a look later to build your own attractiveness. Only then can you chat with girls more easily and effectively.
3： To sum up, we just added WeChat for girls and started chatting and interacting with them. The core idea of chat interaction is
How to start chatting? At the beginning of getting to know a girl and preparing to chat and interact, we should first find ways to arouse her interest in us, such as using stories, humor, conventions, palm reading, guidance, and other interactive methods to express our personality and values, so as to arouse her interest in us and make her feel that we are an interesting man. We should first guide her to invest emotions in us and derive her interest indicators.
Afterwards, we express our interests, such as praising the girl, expressing identification, etc., to make the girl feel that we are also interested in her.
Why do you want to do this?
In addition to not revealing our strong sense of need at the beginning, this is also the core element of the initial relationship between men and women: first, let the girl affirm us and show interest in us, so that we can better express our interest in the girl in a reasonable way, and thus let the relationship between the two parties develop naturally.
So, it’s very wrong to ask and say a lot of questions to a girl at the beginning of a conversation, and she won’t have a good reaction. Because this violates the core elements of male female interaction.
Women are usually reserved, and in order to break her reserved demeanor, we men should play a leading and guiding role. This way, girls will gradually be attracted to us and fall in love with us, making chatting and interaction more relaxed, effective, and natural!
That’s all for today’s love chat tips! Wishing everyone to get out of singlehood soon and make the person you like fall in love with you!
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