A chat topic that is 1000 times more interesting than “Are you there” and “What are you doing!

Transform the questions asked to girls into a more interesting form,
For example: What are you doing?
Can it be changed to: What are you doing? I guess you’re grooming your legs on the sofa? (Assuming the girl is doing something)
Or it could be: What are you doing? Suddenly, I feel a little missing you. I used to think that missing people is a boring thing, but I don’t know why I still miss you. (Show interest in girls)
Alternatively, take a photo or a short video of what you are currently doing and send it to the other party, along with your own thoughts!
Isn’t this opening line much more interesting than asking a girl directly, ‘What are you doing?’? This way, you can differentiate yourself from other boys and make girls feel that you are very interesting.

Next, let’s focus on:

So besides having a brilliant opening speech, you also need to showcase your value in the later conversations to enhance your attraction to girls. When your value meets the requirements of a girl, she will fall in love with you.

Let’s first talk about how to showcase one’s value through chatting. Girls will judge a man’s value through four aspects of conversation, and this value is not about how much money we talk about.

These four aspects are framework, state, system, and technique.
So, how do you showcase your value when chatting with girls? Caring about girls every day is not enough to showcase their value! Most girls are naturally reserved and won’t ask you proactively, so we need to take the initiative to show them.

But when you showcase your own value, you must act naturally and not be too direct or brag about yourself, as you will also be rejected by girls. Keep in mind that being low-key is the most impressive way to show off. Next, let me show you the specific content!

1. Core focus of chat: framework
The difficulty level of a person’s compromise is the framework. People with stubborn personalities usually have stronger frameworks! People with weak personalities tend to have weaker frameworks when they are heavily influenced by others!

for instance:

 

 

Girls sometimes like to ask boys for value (such as red envelopes or gifts). But you haven’t known her for long, so you may feel that her demands are unreasonable. At this point, you should reject her with a reasonable attitude of no need, and at the same time, let the girl meet your requirements first before satisfying her demands. This will showcase your framework and high value, proving that you are not a man who obeys casually!

Example 2:

Woman: Why do you come to me every day?

Man: Because I feel you are very interesting (like you)

I believe most brothers have been asked this question, and when faced with it, they almost always answer whatever others ask, just like above. From a logical perspective, this is the typical logical thinking of men. I understand that you want to express your inner thoughts to girls, but this way of chatting is a bit weak and may make girls feel that you have no framework. Asking you this way is actually a test, testing your attitude towards her.

Is it not a good thing for a brotherhood to say that? I just said it went smoothly, expressing love can make us together, but in fact, after you answer like this, most of the results are contrary to our wishes. In fact, the reason why girls ask you this may be to prove their charm and find a sense of existence in you, but once the other party knows the cards, they will feel that you have no interest anymore.

If the other person has a strong sense of self-esteem and many men bow down to you, even in front of you, they may be trying to conquer and save you. This is what we often say: don’t enter a woman’s test, let the other person not understand, maintaining a sense of mystery can often deepen attraction!

When a girl tests you, don’t fall into her “trap”, but many brothers don’t have this awareness and still keep digging in as usual. When you encounter this situation, you should immediately calm down and think about how to get out of the question the girl asked you, and switch to a response method that keeps your own framework unchanged as the core, instead of following her topic down. This is the core of “jumping thinking”.

From the above conversation, we can directly see the use of jumping thinking and the process of constantly creating curiosity for girls to lure them into your framework. If you follow the girl’s topic and reply, it will make her feel that your personality is not strong enough, lacks independence, and lacks a sense of security and leadership ability to give her.

A framework is also a high-value expression, and you will find that employees in the company basically obey what their superiors say absolutely. If their superiors want to execute a project, then basically no one will object because they have more knowledge and experience.

Having one’s own thoughts and insights in front of women, learning things that girls don’t know and showcasing them, sticking to one’s own bottom line and attitude, and then using suppression to elevate oneself, will conquer girls. This is the importance of frameworks.

2. Core focus of chat: status!
The expression of your state will be demonstrated through your language and behavior, which is also observed by girls to see if you are a man who meets their requirements.

We should know that girls always say I like xxx, I like tall people, and I like people who look good in white shirts. These are all the standards for girls.

But often this is a behavior, what really attracts girls is your personality. When you have a unique personality, it is a high-value that has nothing to do with money. But many brothers did not show their high value in their state, but were very weak, seeking each other’s opinions, and involuntarily exposing their lack of confidence.

It’s actually a very small thing, if you bring it back and give it to a girl to tell her not to be so careless, losing it wouldn’t be good. Girls will actually be grateful to you.

And you can take this opportunity to say it’s okay, just treat me to a cup of coffee next time and invite me. Girls can also judge from another perspective that you are a very careful and considerate man. (Don’t care too much about the other person’s feelings, learn to be a man with strong opinions! Don’t be afraid of making mistakes, only weak and incompetent people will never make mistakes, and they will also achieve nothing!)

3. Core focus of chat: Maintain self, that is, establish a system and maintain consistency
Many brothers may have been asked by girls, ‘You’re playing tricks on me,’ indicating that what brothers have learned in emotional education has had a significant impact. But many brothers mistakenly believe that the meaning behind a girl is that her tricks have been discovered by her, and they feel very guilty, afraid that the other person will not like them, and their feelings of gain and loss will come again. It returned to its previous dull chat mode. The result was still passed by the girl.

Girls may find things that were originally quite interesting, but why bother getting involved again? I’m not very familiar with you yet.

Actually, when a girl says her first sentence, her thoughts are very active and excited in her heart. She may have encountered someone as interesting as you for the first time, which is why she came up with this sentence.

At this point, many brothers must have thought it was too much of a lie, so I’d better restrain myself a bit. Then I changed my style, but the girl didn’t take a liking to you at this moment, and the emotions that had already gone up fell back to a low point.

If you lack consistency in chat, it will make girls question the impression you left on them before. You have not adhered to your principles, and once the other party gives you feedback, you will change because of their words. I feel like the person I’m chatting with now is different from before, but the result has returned to the past.

4. Skills
The correct way of chatting:

When a girl is chatting with you, she should constantly enhance her stimulation, so as to leave her with her unique personality and leave a deep impression on you, which is attraction. So it is essential to maintain consistency in the conversation! Welcome to chat tips. There is too much content and space is limited. We will gradually share them in the future.