How to start a conversation with a girl without feeling awkward

Let’s put aside the matter of skills first and think about a question:
Why do you feel embarrassed when flirting with your sister
Are you chatting with a girl? It seems like even how to start can give you a headache. After racking your brains and thinking hard, you finally squeezed out a word “Hi” from between your teeth. You thought this opening line would never make the other person pick out a problem.
But when the girl easily says “Hi” to you, your headache starts again.
Why do you feel stage fright in front of a little girl despite being a tough guy? Have you become so bewildered?
Actually, this is not saying that your straight male cancer has occurred. Ultimately, it’s because you haven’t been prepared yet and your confidence is too lacking.
You are like a timid cat, unsure of what she likes or dislikes, afraid of accidentally entering a minefield. You can only obediently follow the girl’s gaze and act accordingly.

Preparing for Girls

In fact, in love, the more afraid a man is of making mistakes, the more likely he is to make mistakes. The ones who can chat to death are mostly men who are scared to death in front of girls.
To get out of this predicament, you need to first understand a truth:
To date a girl, you need to do your homework first and get to know her general situation. The so-called date chat is just a preliminary assessment of your own achievements.
In other words, if you want to be confident when chatting with a girl, the first step is to “preview this girl”.
Don’t think that adding her as a friend means everything is fine. This is just the beginning. You need to take notes through various channels such as her profile picture, social media, message board, and personal signature, analyze her interests, daily values, and anything she particularly dislikes.
If you learn through various channels that the elements of a girl’s life are like this:

①. She likes to listen to Mao Buyi’s songs She likes watching Korean dramas very much She loves Chongqing hotpot the most She has a teddy bear at home She doesn’t like her current job She refuses to add cilantro to any food Her hometown is not the city where she currently works She has the habit of getting up early every day to drink coffee She goes to the gym three or four times a week She dislikes men flirting the most

There is a lot of information to be learned, and it is impossible to talk about it all at once. So, which one should be discussed first and which one should be discussed later?
Of course, let’s start by discussing topics that are relatively easy to unfold and very niche.
From the information listed above, it is evident that the levels of topics ①, ②, ④, and ⑥ are significantly higher than those of other topics. However, you cannot be too blunt. When I say that these four topics have higher levels, you should only talk about these four topics and not even mention the others.
Also mention other topics appropriately, don’t make your conversation seem dry.
When a girl discovers that the topics you mention are of great interest to her, she naturally feels a strong connection with you and has a particularly compatible conversation, thinking that you are the man who understands her and can reach the depths of her soul.
With a consensus foundation, you can smoothly build an empathetic conversation.
For example, your opening statement can actually be done like this:

Hello, Mao Buyi’s little fan. “” Your teddy bear is calling me to add you as a friend. “” We are also patients who don’t like cilantro and would like to discuss our condition with you.

In fact, with such an opening statement as an assist, your sense of conversation topic has already been established.
Having done your homework will naturally make her feel that you are not the kind of person who casually flirts with girls. This way, your interest in chatting will increase, and you can also enhance your initial favorability.
But back to back, back to back, after all, we just met, and this trick is just to ease the small awkwardness between two strangers. Don’t always be greasy, once the situation is opened up, you still need to impress her with sincerity.
Some impatient brothers complained to me: This is too troublesome. I don’t know anything about these topics and have little interest in them. Are there any shortcuts to choose from?
I can only helplessly tell you: chasing a girl is not that easy. If you don’t understand the topic, you can go and learn. Since you want to catch her, it’s only natural to invest some time and energy. There’s no such thing as a free lunch waiting for you in the world.
If you complained about the trouble at the beginning of our meeting, then I really doubt your motivation for that girl. Maybe you just wanted to finish dating and leave, right? Or is it that you are someone who only gets three minutes of attention for whatever you do, and loves each other when you see them?
Why don’t you find it troublesome to recite the hero combo? Why don’t you feel bitter when practicing layup footwork?
If you truly love, you are willing to give anything, and you will feel that this kind of giving is enjoyment, completely willingly.
If even getting to know this girl can make you feel annoyed, I advise you to wash up and sleep early. It’s inevitable that there won’t be any chance, why waste the energy and time of both of us there.

The third sentence of the chat is very important

After taking serious notes on the girl, you should think about how to quickly win her favor.
You can try the “Induced Chat Rule”
The best reference for identifying a girl’s initial liking for herself is to look at “Who initiated the third sentence of the conversation
Do you know what the third sentence in the chat is?
for instance:

Man: What are you doing? Female: Watching ‘Youth with You’ Female: And you?

The phrase ‘What about you?’ is actually a very positive feedback from the third sentence of the conversation. If she proactively throws you a question, it means she doesn’t want to end the conversation with you yet and is quite interested in the chat you initiated. She wants to further build a communication network with you.

Man: Have you eaten yet? Female: Did you eat it? Female: Did you eat it?

This sentence ‘Have you eaten?’ is also the third sentence in the chat, but its power is far less than the previous sentence ‘What about you?’ because this topic was initiated by you, and the girl just casually talked to you without any desire to chat with you.
This is also the reason why many boys feel tired chatting with girls.
Since the third sentence has such a high value, does it mean that we should give all the initiative in chatting to girls?
Actually, it’s not like that. You must have watched cross-talk before. When a girl gives feedback on a topic you bring up, not only do you have to answer the conversation, but you also have to throw a question back to the girl, imagining yourself as a comedian. No matter what the comedian says, you should be able to handle it.
You need to actively stimulate a girl’s sense of topic and generate her passion for chatting, which means you need to be able to predict her thoughts on certain situations and provide reasonable supplements to give her a good impression of you.

Divergent thinking in chatting

Boys often like to use questions like “What are you doing?” or “Have you eaten?” as opening remarks, but in fact, such statements can easily make girls’ attitudes become cold.
Why not change your approach and make your opening more divergent, making the girl feel like there’s something to talk about and do.
For example, replacing the phrase “What are you doing?” with “Is your little Teddy naughty again
Did you eat it? “Was adjusted to” I just watched a dark dish, do you know what fried Oreo is? “, maybe we can arrange a meal while chatting.
Turning the “goodnight” before bedtime into “looking forward to meeting you in my dreams” naturally postponed the topic for the next day.
At the same time, you can also liven up the atmosphere of the conversation by making reasonable guesses, indirectly praising girls, and appropriately attacking them.
When chatting with a girl, remember to give her the initiative in the conversation content, but you need to control the pace and emotions of the conversation. This not only opens up the girl’s conversation box, but also reduces her pressure, making her feel that chatting with you is a very interesting thing.
If you find that you have changed several topics one after another, and girls reply with perfunctory tone words or emojis, it can only indicate two points:
One reason is that she currently has someone she likes in her heart, not you. Secondly, she doesn’t even have a basic fondness for you as a person.
At this point, you still need to have some points in your heart. Don’t put on a brave and determined attitude, thinking that with more effort, you can take her down.
Ending the topic in a timely manner is actually to reduce the negative impression that girls have of you.
At this point, you have two choices:
Either shift the target to avoid a fruitless outcome; Either improve yourself and showcase a better version of yourself on social media platforms such as Moments, waiting for girls to be attracted to you and their favorability index to rise.
To put it simply, if you want to avoid embarrassment when flirting with a girl, the essence is only eight words – sincerity as the mainstay, skills as a supplement.
Sincerity and skill are like weights that maintain the balance of a scale, neither side can be biased.
Being too sincere can make girls feel pressured and see you as a boring person. Being too technical will make girls think you are a big carrot with a fickle heart, and you are the most likely to be fickle.
As a man, if you want to flirt with a girl, you must learn to understand her emotions. Once you feel tired, quickly end the conversation and think about what to prepare for the next chat.
If she is enthusiastic, she must seize the rare window of opportunity and indirectly inquire about the information you want to know, further insight into the world of girls.
When you can be the ‘boy who understands her best’, why bother chatting with her?
If you really want to enter her heart, you have to go to her heart first.