The unspoken rule of adult dating: no one explicitly states it, but everyone is following it

There are some things that adults should understand without explicitly stating them. 01 Agreeing to the appointment means tacitly approving some things
I saw a saying online: If you can’t make an appointment, you just don’t like it. Your favorable impression may fall into a trap carefully planned by the other party for you. When you receive an invitation late at night for a rare art film in a newly opened private cinema, the moment you choose to reply with “good”, a game has silently begun. Adult dating is never just a pastime, accepting an invitation itself is an attitude: you tacitly approve of the other person pushing the relationship into a more private realm. For example, when a woman encounters a man who wants to “get his hands on” when she comes up, she just takes your hand and says “your hands are so slippery”, and there are also those who “touch their legs” when they come up, which is really incomprehensible. Women have also encountered situations where they sat down and asked if they could accept a sexless life after marriage, but they were also drunk. The man’s proposal of “come to my house and I’ll make you a cocktail” may seem like a literary disguise, but it is actually a test to break through social safety distance. The cruelty of this unwritten rule lies in the fact that rejection requires stronger willpower than acceptance. A girl summed it up brilliantly: “Agreeing to go to a niche underground exhibition is equivalent to tacitly allowing him to become your performance art collaborator.” Your “I’m sorry to refuse” and “I won’t refuse” will eventually make you suffer a big loss.
Arriving at an appointment in the evening of 02, some things are uncontrollable
When the pointer crosses nine o’clock at night, the nature of the date quietly deteriorates. The woman once thought that the “Late Night Art Museum Special Open Day” was a literary encounter, but in the empty exhibition hall, the other party inadvertently traced the curve on her back while explaining Kandinsky’s abstract paintings. The ambiguity in this environment is like deliberately dimming the lights in an exhibition hall, blurring the boundaries between politeness and crossing boundaries. I have read a news article online before: a female teacher promised to go to an underground cinema with a high school male student in the early morning for an appointment, but an indecent incident broke out and her reputation was ruined. There is still a form of dating that often becomes an emotional hunting ground: a group of people performing “Rhino in Love” on bookshelves late at night, and when they read “You are my warm glove, cold beer”, there are always people who pretend to hold the other person’s hand. This is not a gathering of literary and artistic youth, it’s like a large-scale physical contact testing ground. The probability of intimate contact during evening dates is 73% higher than during the day. A tour guide’s leader once said, “In the night tours along the Huangpu River that I have taken, at least five pairs kissed at rusty boat anchors. Although I repeatedly emphasized that there is surveillance in that area
03 Going to the quiet forest, hoping for something to happen
Someone has placed their date in a quiet park or dense forest, and anyone with discerning eyes knows what they are doing. There is an online activity called “Midnight Firefly Observation Route”, which was originally designed for children to explore, but it has become an accelerator for urban relationships between men and women. They were in the bushes that required physical contact to pass through, and in the misty mountains where they needed to share a raincoat. The deliberate obstacle designs made 95% of participants’ fingers interlocked when they descended the mountain. Similar scenes include activities such as “abandoned factories” and “outdoor art exhibitions”. The countless reflections of men and women under the moonlight create the illusion that there is only each other left in the world. If you don’t have that idea, don’t put the date location in this scenario. 04 Conclusion
If your purpose for dating is impure, you will inevitably ignore these unwritten rules, intensify and explore without boundaries. If you are just having a formal date with a good impression, please remember these unwritten rules. I’m afraid of those who pretend to be confused while pretending to understand. What you think of as smart will eventually be mistaken for smart.